How did a sword troupe come to work with fire? Someday I will talk about how I ended up in/running a sword troupe but today I want to talk about a much bigger turn that led to a stranger place.

I have a friend who is an idea factory. He seriously churns out things as a side note that I wish I could catch and tuck away for later. We’ve diverged in path significantly but initially we were both interested in working at renaissance faires and had worked together in a troupe. He didn’t want to do sword work any more-he wanted to play with fire. My strength is that I make things pretty and am very good at promoting OTHER people.  We made an agreement that we’d put him under our troupe umbrella and handle boring things like promotion, act details and contracts and book shows for him.   We did that but unfortunately he became bored with fire and performance. He sold us his props and I found another colleague from the same group that did fire but with different tricks-and he too, was done with swords. I breathed a sigh of relief, same deal, shows covered.

And then, he had to give it up as well. Sadly, we still had shows scheduled.  I begged him and he agreed to train me and any interested parties in Phoenix Swords how to use and be safe with fire. Little did I know how many people think fire is sexy and how much it would change  the face of the troupe!

I bought some props for me to try-fire fans. They looked a little less intimidating than say, juggling or devilsticks.  We had two dancers that took to this immediately and wrote up a set of choreography to do.


Undeterred, I found a bigger set of fans-which then were bought by a member and he took them over as his thing.


In the meantime, two members invested in a set of fire swords and took over that part of the business-my second fire guy was nice and continued to train anyone interested. This led to us starting a division called “Phoenix Fire” because we had to do something about the fire training cutting into the sword training.

The shows we’d booked to that point involved the whole troupe and although we did a little fire work as a gate finisher at some faires or as individual bookings, it became clear that we had a full act on our hands and we needed to get a much more formal stage guide in place.

Stepping back a moment, as soon as I heard fire guy #2 was going to leave, I had to jump into the wonderful world of fire safety and performance with both feet.  At that time, the only place anyone heard of doing what we do was with Burning Man or the occasional poi spinner or secret  fire gatherings that were world-of-mouth. Like any subculture-first you have to FIND it and then you have to go in full-on invested.  The places where I found the best information were at Home of Poi (in Australia) on  and I read, read and read. And coming into it as an outsider I asked firefighters, burners, fire lovers, people who liked to grill-anybody and funneled all that into something we could use. Long story short, apparently I went about it the hardest way any human being could. But when I was finished, we had working procedures for safety, stage and tools. MSDS sheets for fuels (we don’t mix)  an annual training, training booklet, step-by-step bits for each tool and a checklist with a quiz.  And we made mistakes-and apparently had a reputation for being “safety Nazis.” The nicer people were just happy we showed up with tools and I was roped into doing a fair amount of spotting for other fire acts. One subcontractor expressed concerns about our first aid kit so I brought it over. His response was.
“Well, I asked about first aid and it appears we can survive a plane crash with this.”
(Our full first aid kit is bigger than carry-on luggage)

Friends and I have often discussed “the Curse of competence” that is, we inadvertently go so good at something that other folks start taking it for granted. Although I’d been the one to start the big push for fire, I did not get a significant piece of the stage action for nearly three years. I knew how to do most of the tricks and bits and could pinch-hit, some of the performers actively discouraged me from being onstage. We eventually figured out  1) they would have to share stage time (and honestly I don’t begrudge it) and 2) good spotters are hard to find. 3) Because, reasons.

So I developed (with some help from the internet) my own fire tool and we put it together. It had the bonus of being dangerous for men to use. That would be the fire meteors-which we’ve since discovered is the second most dangerous fire tool out there. And for me, I had to use the bigger monkey fists because I wanted the extra weight. (My gorilla arms, so hot)

But honestly, it began to be too much to be a stage manager, a spotter, props person AND help run the sword troupe. I tried delegating with mixed success.  One summer we had some really awful interpersonal incidents. And when some barriers were removed (and some people) there was sudden peace and re-arrangement. We  stopped doing a certain faire and it eventually disappeared. And now there are three to four troupes in the area that specialize in fire, it’s been an easy transition back to doing historical and stage sword work, with a bit of fire.

Some things we stopped doing were letting people go from practice to performance before a year with us (and fire) We used to have an issue with people staying just long enough  to learn the tricks and then become competitors-or that we were not “burners” so they were disappointed.   We have learned to ask A LOT of questions of anyone who wants to hire us. One would think inviting someone to come and play with fire in your backyard/venue  would lead to concerns but in a number of cases it’s good we were proactive!

Anyway the summary of how I ended up working with fire is that I had to learn to make my bookings. Plenty of others have different reasons (and THAT is another whole blog entry)  but it is pretty cool to work with once you realize it’s not an “if” but a “when” you will get burned.  My partner teases me about being a little nuts to do it, and it did take two years before I could bring myself to fire-eat.  But it does illustrate that you can start by being a certain thing but your business ends up going in a different direction. Some of the troupes I’ve seen ended up doing more marketing and less performance. Others saw how lucrative it was to sell the tools they use and ended up as vendors. Some started with weapons and that became the focus of their show.  But by its very nature, fire can consume and not just with physical properties so be sure to be aware of ALL its aspects, even the commercial ones.


I just wanted to share this

Originally posted on Larry Hurtado's Blog:

I’ve been puzzled in recent days by some readers whose comments suggest that they expect that sound scholarly analysis of serious historical questions can be conveyed persuasively in blog-postings and/or replies to comments.  There seems to be some notion that they shouldn’t have to read books and articles, plow through the data, etc.  So, they ask a question; I respond briefly and point them to some book or article for fuller and more adequate discussion; but then the responses sometimes suggest the folk posing the questions really can’t be bothered.  Yet they often seem to have firm opinions on the issues involved, challenging me to dislodge them to their satisfaction.  So, I think it’s well to try some clarification of things here.

Scholarly work intended to have an impact on the field isn’t done in blogging.  The amount of data, its complexity, the analysis and argumentation involved, and the engagement…

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What we do for performance highlights history and the past but modernity has we impacted how we do business and how we handle communication, travel and commerce. That’s true of everyone but in some ways it’s amusing that a sword troupe thrives because of technology.

For this I’ll use two examples generally 2002 timeline and totay

Getting out the word-
Then: At that time not everyone in the troupe had email, so we had to rely on the phone, meeting at practice or passing along via troupe members what our plans were. I tried to do six-month planning sheets that I would hand out at practice.  We had a phone tree for cancelled practices and I generally had to decide the night before because some folks wouldn’t be caught fast enough by phone.  We had a fax number so we could send/receive contracts and a website. On the website we had printable materials, the fax number, email and posted our own video. We joined as many webrings as possible and posted on every forum I could find. We had brochures and sent out “promotion kits” with a CD, printed material and a hardcopy photo.

Now: We have a website, facebook, blogger, wordpress and Youtube.  Still haunt forums and sites and try to get us linked to as many places as possible. Practice info is sent by text, by email  and occasionally I’ll use a facebook site. People don’t change, and I’ve flat out said that when I have hold someone’s hand, look deeply into their eyes and tell them troupe plans, then there will be jail time and I’ll call it quits. And yes, I’ve been told that calling, announcing at practice, and email was not sufficient. (Not for some time, admittedly) We do most of our contracts via email. I love email, it leaves a trail.

Then, we had to find our way to a faire site that was not on Mapquest and had to request a map (and consult an atlas) to find our way there. Only one person per car had a cell phone and we left at different times. We tried not to call one another because outside the area was expensive. And we chose our cell phone plan based on the fact that there was a cell tower near the practice site. Even on reaching the performance site there were no signs, had no GPS and even people from the LOCAL AREA had no idea where it was. (Wilmer, AL Mobile Zoo-) Note that even today,  there are no connecting roads.  We would print up “map books” from AAA in a bound folder with turn-by-turn directions and gas stops. Sometimes we had to front people money because ATMS were not a thing yet. We would throw in a mix tape to travel.

Now, we print up the turn-by-turn on a single sheet of paper and we have everyone’s cell number. We still rent cars and leave at different times but it’s simple to just call on the road and see how it is going.  We (owners) can locate one another via “find my phone” and I am seriously considering a “nanny app” for larger sites so we can track one another (with permission) Our special gift is finding spots where Google’s map is out of date/wrong (this happened as recently as this April) We can warn of road hazards and traffic jams. We have told our people “Do not rely  upon your GPS.” So when we receive a call at 2:00 am from a place that is nowhere near any of our written directions, I’ve been known to throw phones across the parking lot. (It was a nokia, so no problem.) Some things haven’t changed-bringing our own food, setting up shifts and packing light.  By polite request the person in the “shotgun” seat doesn’t play with their phone or handheld games so we all don’t die in a ditch because the driver fell asleep.


Then:huge difference. It was expensive and time consuming because it required camera film and then a trip to the local pharmacy. When we did move to digital it was with a pixel-quality camera that is available for most children’s toys now. I do miss some of the vibrancy.  In order to get “action shots” I’d record with a (tape required) camera and then whittle down to certain frames. Editing video was a weekend-long job.

Now: Take a picture of everything! Even though I generally only have a little pocket canon, I get some great shots. The problem is getting people to take photos! I am probably the least-featured member because I am behind the lens. Now, my big issue is winnowing down what makes a good shot.  I’ve been told I have a good eye and no amount of photoshop can help a picture be amazing if you don’t start with something good. Video is as simple as a quick edit  in iMovie and “bam!” it’s out on youtube. The bigger problem now is discernment of what is interesting

Information in general-we can do waivers and contracts on an ipad-and check online information. I can’t tell you how many times we’ve received a call while on the road with a request for information. We can be professional  while in a van of overtired performers but sometimes it can be a challenge. And we have a credit card reader so commerce can be done on the spot!

Things that won’t change: Physical demands-you have to haul gear, swing a sword and have some physical ability. We still have tents and swords!  Networking-there is nothing like person-to-person contact to make an impression. Video can be misleading-it’s easy to be good for three minutes-tough to do for a ½ hour show, repeated throughout the day.  And our experience is that tent with extra “oomph” will take longer than an easy-up, but will stay in place longer. I had a boss who told me that a webcam would make sure that no one came in to see a live creature for themselves.  That might be true of some but what a terrible way to rob yourself of a terrific experience!

I’m sure there is technology out there that we haven’t event tapped but it’s  a balance between making your bottom line and playing with the newest, latest greatest.  I remember how some folks told me if we weren’t on twitter then we should just throw in the towel. Sorry, just can’t be that entertaining all the time, and if celebrities are any indication, it’s written Russian Roulette until something stupid from your brain sets the internet on fire.

Although having modern access helps, it’s not what our experience is about and what makes it special! So although we’ll continue to add to the modern arsenal, it’s going to be history, proximity and fun that keeps us viable.

Country Diary : Crows fly through branches of a tree

When we do the Wheaton Arts Fantasy faire in NJ, we often get together during the day with the Mystic Mercenaries Stage Combat Team and talk shop. We have a lot of fun and turn one another onto sources, video, show off new equipment and talk about our current projects. We discussed how the economy hurt recruitment. I’ve been thinking about it for some time and decided to share my musings (sorry dear readers) about members and some of the things that will thin your ranks if you run a group.

Bad economy-this is fairly basic, no money, no gas, no costuming no free time. If people have to choose between making a living and coming to practice-we completely understand this. We’ve been known to offer some financial help to dedicated members. This has sometimes come back to bite us but you don’t know unless you try.

Laziness –once again, not really a stretch to figure this one out. For me it’s a bigger stretch to put myself in those sparkly slippers and think as others do. I am not sure what it is about people who want to join groups (of any kind really) and then think there will be basic expectation of working toward a common goal, expected tasks and services. Or that putting on a costume and strapping on a sword suddenly makes you A STAR! I’m sure there is someone out there who has successfully done this but they haven’t yet worked for me. So I would say the percentage is against you in never having to learn basic safety and how to be part of a team, and then get on stage.

College, not exactly under economy but it’s a killer. We’ve recruited A LOT of college students but rarely do they stay. On the plus side, once they hit late twenties, there is an uptick in recruitment. So academia results in both a high and low tide of numbers.

Sex and significant others. Never underestimate the power of the basic drive to procreate-we certainly don’t. This dynamic is like mud thrown through a screen door-it may not all get through, but chances are you’ll get a little on everyone. One of my hot buttons is partners of members who decide that they would like to run our troupe via a member’s nether bits. That is-they start applying pressure to the partner to force the troupe leader to accept ultimatums, make demands and essentially make life hellish for everyone. We had one member who had been with us from the beginning and he was very enthusiastic and well-liked. We had even survived him dating and breaking up within the troupe (oy!)

But he picked up one girlfriend (not in troupe) that decided she was going to drive him like a front-end loader over our set of rules and behavior using the stick shift. She gave him a set of demands he was to present to us just before a show. At the rehearsal he walked up, told us he needed to spread his wings and that we weren’t offering what he needed and he’d have to leave unless we made some changes. Imagine the sadness and his surprise when we accepted his resignation and wished him the best and that we totally understood. Then we went back to work as we left him standing there taking it all in and absorbing it. He didn’t stay to finish practice and from what we overheard as he and his girlfriend left, that wasn’t what she expected either. Over the years I’ve had a chance to observe that “driver” follows a pattern and you’d think she’d learn that one never gets actual personal power via others.

More insidious is a strange type of foreplay that involves unwitting participants-that is, one person who dresses in costume, takes on a persona and a sword against a backdrop of others supporting the role of pirate, swordfighter, paladin what have you. This adds a layer of sexy and the Significant Other gets to enjoy some role-play. Great. But then the fact that sexy troupe member is now accepted and works with other sexy troupe members sets up a dissonance-they love that their partner does this but RESENT the organization for not keeping the mental game to the minimum two players. The rest of the troupe moves from backdrop to threat. That stuff makes my right temple pulse and twitch.

As years pass, my tolerance has gone to nil for this. When the female half of a couple joined and her husband came to practice, I had no issue. But after the third practice I had some plain words that boiled down to ‘join or don’t be here as a distraction.’ Pleasant surprise-he joined. A more common response is that we never see the troupe member again. Sad as we are, we have headed off a long-term problem. And this plays out over, and over and over.

Babies. Seriously, who can compete with babies? (Note: babies have decimated our numbers this year)
Favoritism, guilty as charged. Do a lot for the troupe; we’ll do a lot for you. Do not badmouth us or try to guilt, blackmail us or whine. We’ll bend over backwards to help people achieve what they need but we are not interested in being bent over against our will. I’ll let Queen Latifah speak for us

I can do it better-not a surprise to hear. As many faire craftspersons can tell you, they hear it often. So I take a line from them-“By all means and good luck.” Producing art is harder than it sounds.

And the last, just done. For sword work and fire, it can be grueling and some folks have other things they would like to do. As I like to joke
“What!? Something else to suck away my time and money?!”
We have reenactors who have other gigs, LARPers who have events, people who have long drives and/or kids and plenty of other activities that don’t involve hauling equipment or being bitten by mosquitoes. And if folks are done, they are done. Even I feel done with it at times-and we run the darn thing!

Our long-term plan, which we only half-joked about the week we formed Phoenix Swords, is that as long as my partner and I can still move, enjoy and entertain, it can be just the two of us out of the trunk. This takes the pressure off everyone else. And some years, we do kind of eye one another and cross our fingers that we have enough to keep going. But even with these pitfalls, if you have a fire, a plan and keep growing yourself and what you do-your energy will attract others.

Performance has scary consequences. Although this is about street magicians, I thought you would appreciate some of the insights:

Human buried in papersAs a performer and a troupe leader, I try to make it a point to remember how it felt when we first started and do my best not to backslide into bad habits or singing a little too shrilly for my proverbial supper. That is, if you don’t remember the past, you may be doomed to repeat it. We have made a space for ourselves that makes me happy even if not as busy as we’d like. In the spirit of that, I’d like to recall some mistakes we made in the past hoping it will help someone else.

Don’t work for free. Even if it is for tips, for busking rights, for advertisement, for a discounted cost. Occasionally, we will test an act at a troupe member or friend’s home or party-at least in exchange for food, a few beers and they critique our show. You are offering a service and should get recognition for that service. It’s one thing to be an indie band that needs to move from the garage to a friendly venue, to eventual paying gigs, another to be someone with a costume and a schtick. Bands do need to get better but the tinkering for an act is a different animal and doesn’t have the same set list and expectation every time. And organizers that like free acts can be a bit fly-by-night themselves, One notoriously bad job we did, most of the food vendors and some of the acts melted away when the police came for another matter, try not to find yourself working for those people.

Contracts and payment-we’ve done a number of spit-and-handshake deals but generally only with people we trust or know very well. In our state, emails can be produced as evidence of a contract in court. If you have an employer that dances around putting anything down in writing, signing paperwork or leaving a trail-be wary. Also, have a plan in place. We generally have a set of invoices we keep to email or printed so they may be filled out and signed. Some employers will try the old “Oh we don’t need anything.” And then try not to pay because you don’t have the proper paperwork. Be proactive and ready.

Have a pre-set contract of your own outlining everyone’s responsibility. (Go ahead and google acting contracts) We have found that school and town administrators are some of the worst at inadvertently or through cunning having inadequate guidelines in place. It’s one thing if you are a lane act that uses soft, plushy animals. For the rest of us, we need to make sure everyone understands that swords and fire can be dangerous and we will only be held liable for our own actions, not inappropriate venues or bad management.

Check local laws, we’ve had to turn down fire shows or had to jump through hoops to get a show to the stage. It has generally been problematic for us but a breeze for everyone who comes behind us. To that end we have a copy of the federal fire statutes that apply to us. Check with local fire and law, and generally have a working knowledge of the weapons definitions in an area. We call ourselves a sword and fire troupe but we call our equipment “props” which is so much nicer than ‘car full of blades and accelerants.’ And I have to say, please don’t be a douchebag, just be respectful and polite when asked about your act. We even have written descriptors and a stage plan-just do what you need to do and make it easier for yourself and other faire acts.

Have a plan B if the employer decides to pull a fast one. Our plan of action includes keeping a signed copy of the contract, sending items by registered mail and the name of a lawyer on our roster. We have only had to go to step three of this twice-in one case the money arrived FedEx the next day, in the other we were one of dozens of acts that went unpaid and the company is out of business. So sometimes even a contract and hired gunslingers won’t take care of everything.

Rubbing shoulders-be careful of your company. If you have a trouble-attractant as part of your group, well, that isn’t going to go away. If you have to fire or ban this person that doesn’t make you bad or evil, that makes you smart. You have not limited their choices-they have through their own actions. I despise ultimatums and can’t tell you how many things have been slung my way. Typically
“You are making me choose between [thing person claims to value] and the troupe!”
Nope, we have a set of rules, you knew what they were and we will do the math
Value to our group /= Histrionics.
So if they are awful people, they will be awful people to everyone-your employers, your customers, and they will hurt your reputation. This is true about who you have as “buddies.” It costs nothing to be nice to everyone but who you socialize with can send out a signal. Our group has a lot of different personalities and I’m not here to be the friend police. It works to our favor that some acts get along with some members and not others but no one would know because we aren’t jerks. But if I catching anyone “shopping” our troupe for vulnerable people, we’re done. You are not required to be buddy-buddy with those for whom you have no respect and who set off the “creepy” vibe.

In a future entry, I’ll talk about how sometimes, no matter what you do, it will all go wrong. Just have an escape plan and try to minimize pain and money loss. You are well within your rights to warn other acts about bad employers, just be tacit about how you spread that. And if someone is doing that to you, get a screenshot or proof, this impacts your business. I am happy to report anyone who is spreading untruth, misusing our image or just plain damaging our reputation to their Internet Service Provider, employer or others.

Sometimes you just have to take the chance. You will meet “quirky” employers who have a hard time filling contracts. We are fairly mercenary, we add a tax onto these people. One employer had a reputation of being a jerk and after we played chicken over a paycheck and we didn’t blink-well he was one of our best employers. And another who had an amazing reputation but we had to chase for our pay. We LOVE working for lawyers, they don’t take anything for granted and have some pretty jazzy contracts. With permission, we use a form that one gentleman created specifically for renfaire acts and it is four pages long and “Pirate Mayhem” is specifically written in and expected. DO follow-up and thank the people who hire you. We’ve been known to send booze, do reciprocal contracts and give group hugs, find your equilibrium.

It would be great if everyone was on the same page about ideas and end goal but we are all different people with different views. Sometimes it’s miscommunication, sometimes ignorance and sometimes it’s just plain being sneaky. The better you plan and ask questions, the better off you are. Things can still go askew but if you can get into a car and escape intact-all good. And maybe you’ll have some amazing cautionary tales of your own.


I’ve mentioned it several times on this blog that Renfaires tend to have DRAMA. I can’t speak to how others deal with it but I am going to point out some of my own experiences and how I coped.

To begin, everyone has drama of some type or another, we are all living a Greek Tragedy and one has to equip coping mechanisms. At the faire this gets ramped up because it has been my experience that dramatics and performances attract dramatic people. I just wanted to justify owning and using a sword and that was my first experience with “FAIRE!!!” I did not do it to enhance my personal self-esteem, be an elitist, join the “faire family” or be a superstar. So this pretty much put me at odds with 90% of the faire community.

If it feels wrong, it is. I can’t recount the number of times someone dismissed my fears, bad feelings, misgivings or outright discomfort at some of the things going on around me. This ranged from rampaging sexism to illegal acts. You know what if you don’t like it-if you can’t speak out, relocate. This is direct from the How to Deal with Difficult People seminar. You might be accused of having an overactive bladder or worse, but you know what? You won’t be there (hopefully) when all those chickens of doom come home to roost.

What if you decide to make your line in the sand? Well, there is a price to be paid for that and sadly sometimes you don’t know someone is racking up those charges on your behalf (more on that later) but don’t compromise your internal integrity. I am not asking you to be the faire police (because that’s another end of the spectrum) but if someone does something you don’t like or feel is unjust, speak up. You may be pleasantly surprised at how many others will thank you for it. My own example comes from a couple that once joked
“For all I know you are those every-Sunday church people. Hurr, hurr.”
“We are”
Awkward silence.
But that set up a personal boundary that stopped a lot of unsavory behavior and the unrevealed Christian guy in the same organization thanked us and we didn’t have to explain or rationalize anything. Does this mean I judge?-Well I do but not because of religion but by how you treat other human beings. We have a big rainbow of background in our troupe and although everyone is doing their own thing, I think we’re all in line of the ethic of “don’t be a douchebag.” But it can cost you friends, associates and maybe even your position. But honestly, long-term, who wants to be part of a community who can’t be kind to one another? In our troupe, I personally try to make our tent/group a mini-refuge so that even if the outside circumstances are not great and it hits the fan, we can just come together and know we are safe with one another. (This can be hard when you get too many refugees at an event, but another blog post) It’s perfectly okay to say. “Don’t do that in front of or to me.” Or “That makes me uncomfortable.”

Stealth personal attacks. This is so very, very hard. When you are hit with the 2×4 of crazy-making it’s quite the experience. I have at least four friends who will never, ever work at a faire again and their current communities rejoice to have them. Their detractors did not gain one single thing by cutting these people down and it was like trying to harness stardust-they were left with a handful of glitter and the faires lost something wonderful. Their envy, spitefulness and deeds just put another dark place in the world and they gained NOTHING, not even bragging rights. In my own experience, I turned to my friends and husband and had to try and redirect my energy positively. To be honest, for a few years it was pretty much vented into revenge success-I’ll show them! It meant that I wasn’t actively swimming in negativity. (I was peeved for years, but I refused to give in to being like my attackers)

Here’s what I say about that:

  • It doesn’t matter why, it is about them, not you. (Seriously don’t try to figure out the why)
  • You can calculate the worth of a man by the number of his enemies, and the importance of a work of art by the harm that is spoken of it.-Gustave Flaubert
  • It’s about your happiness, not theirs so they can suck it
  • Time will show who is who
  • Legal issues are best handled by the professionals (police, therapists, security)
  • If you are having personal problems over and over, maybe it isn’t other people.

More on that “maybe it is you.” I evoke a certain enmity in people-and my troupe fellows confirm it for me. We have a certain sub-contractor who could be in the middle of the Mohave desert, playing with his own toes and over the dunes, completely surprising us all, someone from a popular organization will challenge him to a duel. That’s not a personal failing, we’ve both just accepted it is “a thing.” And we do our best to diffuse it with a “whatever.” And do conflict avoidance. He drinks a lot of water, I suck on Altoids (Keeps my breath fresh and my mouth shut!) But if you don’t have long-term friends or people avoid you, or drama follows you like a second skin…you need to take steps to stop whatever you are doing that swirls that mess around and gets it other people. If you need to mutter a mantra or write a series of “computer voice” statements on a notecard or just picture Tahiti in your head-you do it. You and everyone around you will be thankful, long-term.

It’s just the festival and you can go home. It’s hard not to be personally invested and the experience is both better and worse if you are. If you aren’t feeling it, you’re probably not on fire as a performer either. But that fire is better spent on the people who love you, your passions, your accomplishments and personal improvement. If someone is awful to you, they have done you a favor, they have told you, straight up, that they are not worth your time. Move on from there.

Don’t join in. I can’t tell you how many times I have seen a simple case of miscommunication or something even more miniscule turn into a mob-driven witch hunt. You can simply say
“I don’t have all the facts.”
And let it go. When the so-called saviors have burned everything to the ground and destroyed everything around them, often there is a tiny but significant
“Whoops!” In their wake.
I’m not saying you can’t have an opinion, but if you are not the impacted or involved party, then you are just an ass playing out some ego need. (Write that on your notecard, it’s important) Also, if you watched them turn on someone, next time that someone could be YOU, have fun storming the castle…

Don’t think they are playing chess when it is just whack-a-mole. Or as I like to write on my notecard ”do not attribute to malice what can be explained by stupidity.” People are dumb animals, they get bitten by a fly and kick their neighbors-just like a mule-action/reaction. This goes back to the ‘don’t try to figure out why’ I mentioned earlier. I had one of the nastiest things at the faire to happen to me, and one of the ‘masterminds’ tried to friend me on Facebook years later. A friend shook her head and laughed at me. Then said
“She’s stabbed so many people in the back that she’s lost track.”
So much truth.

I’m not saying invite your detractors over for some scones and tea, but often they are less Machiavelli and more Moe of the three stooges. And be wary, they could be carrying a 2×4.

You are your own best friend and you can be the goofiest, cheesiest faire participant ever but you never deserve to be slammed or drawn into the stupidity of faire drama. We are still individuals and when you see a stampede happening-just don’t participate. You are there for your own purposes and to be part of a (productive) team. Although you probably have a good heart, be cognizant of the WHY you are getting involved, consult your brain-it does more than keep your body running. Take care of you, think things through and you will be glad you did.


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